I ain't trippin

I use to hang out wit my (boo-boo), chill out wit my (boo-boo)
She use to be my (boo-boo) oh my
And she would call me (boo-boo), and I would call her (boo-boo)
But no she ain't my (boo-boo) oh my

Some how we've grown apart, and I can't seem to find your place in my heart
Don't wanna say we finished, wanna go back to the start
But it's hard, and I just seen you wit another girl but i...

I ain't even trippin' (trippin'), I aint even mad at ya
And I ain't even trippin' (trippin'), I aint even mad
I ain't even trippin' (trippin'), I aint even mad at ya
And I ain't even trippin' (trippin'), I aint even mad
Cuz me and you been over, which means that I been over
You, you, you
extracted and modified from Cherish 'I ain't trippin' 2008




so maybe the day's ending was a lil rough which is why i felt the need to put this song up. Overall i had a fabulous day. I saw Stevie Wonder perform live at Taste of Chicago and nothing can top that. I'll be telling my grandkids that I saw him with my own two eyes when my age catches up with me and i need binoculars to read a book. Had a nice dinner with friends and was quite relaxed when it was all said and done. Jus had one minor snafu later. O well pride parade tomorrow ... looking forward to that.
Take care of yourselves,

Ty

half penny post

The days are definitely longer and I'm beginning to feel summer in the air. The weather is beautiful and I'm wishing I could spend more time outdoors at the lake.
On the flip side my body is whining at me as my allergies are causing my system to work overtime. I've been going easy on the anti-histamines and taking them only when I'm clawing at me eyes or break out in hives.

Glo had a post (see No 'Ordinary Pain' below) on what happens to all those lovey dovey songs on your ipod after you break up with your girlfriend. I keep playing them. I try to avoid having any one song that has the dubious title of 'our song'.

Music is an essential part of my life. It's like free therapy at times. I usually have something playing in the background at all times. You can tell my mood by what I'm playing ...

• 'I'm for you' by Toby Mac or 'What you want' by Canton Jones and I'm working on getting rid of excess energy. These are head bangin' rock tracks.
  
• Kirk Franklin or Brooklyn Tabernacle Choir and I'm getting my spiritual side going.
• 'Inhlopeko' by Nhlanhla Nciza usually means I'm really struggling with something.
• 'Uthando Lwami' (My Love), 'Udum' ikiss kiss', 'Nguwe Wedwa' (Only You), 'Superhuman', 'Umyeni Wakhe' (Her mate) and I'm just love jonesing.
• Got a few club beats that I drop when I need an energy boost.
• Other Zimba or South African songs mean I'm in a party mood.

I am blessed to have access to some of the newest music around. It does pay to know a DJ or two trust me. I've had some songs that I've introduced friends to and they are like whatever. Two months later they are calling me asking if I've heard the latest song by so and so and I'm usually like 'fool I told you about that gem of a track weeks ago and you rolled your eyes at me'.

Suggested Reading (Optional):
If I Ever Fall in Love Again… - Staceyann Chin. She discusses what she wants in a woman and I might have borrow some of the items on the list.
No 'Ordinary Pain' — Gloria Bigelow. What do you do with all those songs that remind you of your ex in your playlist?

U People Episode 33: "Fashionably Late"

The U people story in this episode is one worth tuning into. I'm not going to tell you at which time mark it begins because I don't want you to miss some of the performance clips that are included in the episode.

Cherry Bomb 5

Yet another Cherry Bomb episode. The women discuss deal breakers and what to do about that girlfriend that might not be exercising all her options in the job hunt (she's just plain slacking).

The ep got me thinking about what my deal breakers are and I think smoking is at the top of the list: herbal or regular. The smell permeates everything and that bothers me to no end.

Of life and women: Clueless

Yet another week has begun. I spent most of my weekend travelling and having a gay ol' time. I got to take a nap in the shade of the St Louis arch so that's one thing to take off of my to do list. Hit the city up with several lads and a lass. If you are ever down there you ought to check out the Venice Cafe. Their jerk chicken is to die for and we all know a lil char on the chicken goes a long way. The recipe is similar to that of Nando's lemon and herb chicken. Speaking of Nando's they are finally in the US!!!!!! YAY!!!!!! I have been craving some Nando's peri-peri chicken for the longest time. I'm having my sister bring me some the next time she comes up as she has one in her town.

Why do women have to be so complicated? I am a woman and you'd think I'd at least have a leg up over some of the guys that I hang out with when it comes to understanding them. I recently discovered that I am as clueless as the blokes. I need to start a support group for all the clueless... it's gotta have a catchy name so suggestions are welcome. I'm calling it Clueless up until someone gives me a better name. The first meeting of Clueless has officially began ... let us introduce ourselves:

Ty: Hi, my name is Ty and I'm clueless.
Gp: Hi, Ty.
Ty: I like this lass and I'm having a hell of a time reconciling cultural differences. I am Southern African and am fairly well versed in cultural norms, actions and such, but I'm clueless when it comes to her culture. [insert example here]. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

In case you are wondering why I have [insert example here] I'm avoiding spilling some unnecessary tea. I'm not going to put someone else's business on this blog without their permission.

I have a friend who recently asked me what it is that two women do together. I about killed myself choking on my drink. If it was a bloke I'd have read him the riot act and then changed the subject but this time I had to seriously consider the question. My friend is ridiculously shy and the fact that she asked meant that she'd been thinking about it for a while. I decided to give her the PG-13 abbreviated explanation which led to more questions and my needing another drink. All in all quite an interesting conversation.

Time permitting check out the following:
Without wicker or spilled milk by Glo Bigleow whereby she recounts some of the events leading up to her first sexual experience. Had to laugh out loud at some of the content in the blog post.

Addend: Check out the insightful comment that was posted by EvolvingContradiction7