Half Penny Post: Weekly Rundown

Salut, ca va? (Hey how's it going) Son Vendredi (Tis Friday)!!!!!! Happy end of week. Today it's 2 weeks worth of a run down. So here goes...

• It's been a busy week. Worked everyday which is good but also means I'm behind on my personal projects.
• I whooped Joomla ass this week and put up a site for a consulting company. There's quite a bit of tweaking to do, but I have the hardest part done.
• I've been slacking a wee bit on my French lessons. Slowly building on single words, greetings, alphabet, numbers. I've taken to using the kids videos on Youtube.
• Job hunt continues. I had a meeting to go over my resume again (My resume is on version 123.456.1 at this point) I've also got a meeting with a Dir of Business Continuity to see about lining up an internship for summer this coming Tuesday.
• Lots of travelling coming up over the next month. I'm in DC quite a bit so it should be cool. I am also going to go home to OH hopefully while I'm at it.
• I belong to a philosophy group (don't even think of rolling your eyes at me) and I must say the Argentine ladies in that group would be incentive enough for one to show up. Forget the stimulating discussion.
• Had dinner with a friend the other night. T'was hella fun as we had good conversation and a spirited debate. I seem to be surrounded by people who are given to debating. I also spent half a night trouble shooting for a mate of mine (K, you are not forgiven for this one) and was almost late for work the next day.
• I have completed reading the Financial pillar portion of the book Harmonic Wealth and have started on the relational pillar. Relationships are a challenge so we'll see how this section flows. Incidentally, today's Cherry Bomb vlog focused on settling in a relationship.
• I travelled south last week and I feel the need to comment on the fact that they have gas stations called "Kum and Go". The 16 year old side of my mind could not help smirking everytime I drove by a sign.
• Birthday season is upon us. Over the next 7 days I have 4 birthdays. Mine comes up a week later. Would you believe my birthday is on Good Friday ... my ass can't go out to celebrate.
• I am debating the advantages of registering my company officially in Delaware and then getting an IL license. Hmm we'll see. Alternately since I'm strongly considering Montreal as my next city of residence, I might as well look into registering it there.
• Off to do more web development work... and learn French.
• BTW my web-mate Sheena is living it up in the French capital. Happy travels chica.
• My mother continues to wait for a her passport.
• I have a friend who is several months along with her pregnancy. She recently posted photos which got my sister and I talking about what we would name our kids if we ever had any. Turns out we agree on the 2 last names for the kid (the kid better be a good speller). We differ on the number of names the kid gets. She says 2 names I say 3, so Ty jr will need to learn how to write 5 items on their name sheet. It's the multiple heritage thing.
• There's a new episode of Anyone but Me that has been posted on AE. I love the web series for reasons I cannot explain. It might be the good writing, or the simplicity (as in clean simple shots) of the series, the simple but complicated nature of the story lines .... anyway check it out if you have time. The webisodes are roughly 5 minutes each so they are good for a quick watch.
• Cathy DeBuono has an interesting blog post entitled Mission Statements and Your Relationship. As I'm in the relational section of my book I thought it'd be a great resource to share.

Peace!

Ty

Half Penny Post: Coming out constantly

Must be the spring air that has people in a contemplative mood. Several blogs and websites that I follow had articles that were a reflection on who the authors think they are juxtaposed against what the world sees them as. Caught a few Youtube vids on that as well. I'll philosophize on Friday during the weekly rundown (I know I still haven't posted last weeks either).

BTW thanks to those who've stopped by (or facebooked me) and given me feedback on the concerns posted previously. And a shoutout to Sheena who is hitting her diet milestones ... you go girl! Stay away from that Tempura.

I recently read a post on how people end up needing to constantly come out and didn't think too much of it. Today I had a conversation with one of my co-workers and had to come out halfway through it. Anyway convo started with him commenting on the fact that one of my top 3 cars is the Toyota Tacoma (crew cab, TRD sport package, black on black 6 speed automatic, custom audio system) which is unusal for a guy even moreso for a female. I love cars, and I do mean love em. I can sing the praises of 101 exotic and sport coupes. Cars are a minor obsession of mine (I get butterflies in my stomach when I look at certain cars - Veyron for one) and if I were wise I'd sign up for Car Lovers Anonymous. The convo wound it's way to the do you have a boyfriend and what are his thoughts on my car love. Funniest thing in the convo was him saying "gay like officially really gay" and I was like yup. He was cool about it. He hasn't met any queer Africans.

I chose to not come out directly to another co-worker last week when we were discussing my age and marriage plans. She was wondering if I was dating or would be considering dating in the near future. I gave out the standard party line "not enough hours in the day to date" and we continued chatting. I am still trying to figure out how we got squarely on the topic of wedding planning. Anyway I mentioned that were I to get hitched, the actual ceremony would be a private one, ie my partner, myself and the officiate and she was quite taken back by it. I personally consider the ceremony itself sacred and as such I do not feel the need to share that sacred space with anyone else. It is my partner and I committing ourselves to each other. Everyone is invited to the BBQ after we return from the honeymoon. I know my mum (and most of the family) will probably have a hard time with not being there to see me say I do, but that's just the way it is.

In case you are wondering what my 3 car choices are, Audi R8, Toyota Tacoma, Toyota Yaris (or Scion TC). BTW has anyone seen the Infinity Essence Concept? Tell me this car will not make you want to give up a few things.

I'll post answers to questions posed previously shortly.

Half Penny Post: Concerns

Bonjour ... Comment ca vas? I'm using the little French that I've learnt ....

Well quarter is over yet again and I'm that much closer to graduation amongst other things. Awesome! Approaching graduation also has me sweating a few things like where will I live, work etc. If I get the job with the AfDB or SADB I'm relocating back to the motherland, so that I can do that which I'm good at in order to help bring about change. The prospect of that move in all honesty has me worried. Some of my concerns are valid while others are really BS concerns. The main one for this post revolves around my sexuality.

Going back to the place where being gay will earn you quality time in prison scares the shit out of me. I am gay from 100 ft (no I do not have rainbows all over the place) and switching it up is not something I'm looking forward to. I am called sir more times than I am called ma'am moreso now that I've cut my hair. How the hell am I supposed to switch that up? And do I want to switch it up? I promised myself that I was not going to go back into the closet yet here I am considering it. I guess I'll have to find a happy medium somewhere.

I'm 25 (well 26 in a few weeks) and single. As I've mentioned in a previous post I have no problem with this. Problem is I'm heading to a culture where it is not quite usual. A good many of my friends who stayed home are now happily tethered. Those that live abroad make up a 50/50 mix of singletons and tethered. What will be my excuse for being single? And trust you me I need to have a good one.

Next up is the dating thing and other basic human needs. For the 1st year I'll probably be fine single and living like a nun. Done it before no big deal. Second year something will have to give. The people that I've spoken to online say a 3 year stint is no hardship since you have time off and can go home or wherever. So I'll trust their wisdom in that respect.

My other option is to find a job with a Non Governmental Organization this side and go on missions. That way I'd be based out here (preferably in Canada) and work out there on shorter rotations. This is my cop-out solution that I think is the woosiest of my options. I really should be able to stand up and go face the challenges head on. Many people have done it and lived to tell so why should I be exception that can't handle the challenge?

Aaaarghhhh this type of thinking is the reason why I won't ever be a person of note or make a difference in the world. I am selfish and want everything to benefit me. If I can get past that and see the good that I'll do while I'm working out there, the decision of where I should be focusing my plans should be clearer.

Bah! We'll see where I end up in September of this year (I'm putting my money on me having a work visa and living in a city where more people speak French than English and having a job that I love). I'll keep applying to jobs and interviewing and trust that my gut will tell me where I need to focus.

Ty

Half Penny Post: Behind schedule on marriage

I read a post on Kubatana blogs this morning that had me both laughing out loud and nodding sagely as the author discussed how using 25 and single in the same breath is practically the same as uttering an obscenity. Below are a few excerpts from the post. I highly recommend reading the whole post "It’s finally happening" by Fungai Machirori. I wholeheartedly agree with her on the pressure one feels but she like me is ok with being single. Entering into marriage should be done because you want to not because everyone else around you wants you to. I am 25 and single and damn proud of it. Anyway enjoy the excerpts.

“It’s finally happening,” the small voice in the pit of my belly whispered, eerily, into my ear.

I first heard it speak to me the week one of my good friends told me that she had met a man who said he wanted to marry her. I instantly burst into uncontrollable laughter because - with all due respect to my friend - she is hardly marriage material.

“But I can actually see myself as his wife,” she stated with a tone that sounded genuine and willing to give it a try. That was when I stopped laughing and teasing her, realising that she had found someone she loved deeply enough to consider spending the rest of her life with.

My friends, even the rowdy and party-hardened ones, are starting to settle down to sedate lives as wives and mothers. In December, I attended two of my university classmates’ weddings and I missed a third one because I couldn’t travel to attend it. And to add to the matrimonial mood, I spotted a girl I went to primary school with on the cover of a bridal magazine, standing lovingly next to her new husband!

And watching my classmates cascade down the aisle in beautiful white gowns, looking like princesses out of fairytales, got that voice going again.

“It’s finally happening,” it said softly. “Everyone’s getting married, or getting serious, and you are getting left behind.”

But what if the said ideal life partner doesn’t show up in time for my carefully thought out plan to unfold without any delays? What if I get late into my twenties, or even into my thirties, still single?

Personally, I think I could handle it. But it’s the back chat of well-meaning relatives, perplexed workmates and blissfully happily married friends that might start to make me feel uneasy and stir that sadistic voice within myself to belt out boldly, and loud enough for every organ and nerve and blood vessel within me to hear,

Where I live, saying “I’m twenty-five and single,” is made to sound like a string of dirty words put together to make an unspeakable expletive. A workmate has suggested that I pray against the evil spirits that are currently standing in the way of my finding lasting love. Another keeps reminding me that after I turn twenty-five, my time with the boys will be over and they will all be looking through me and over my shoulder for a younger woman.

Needless to say, I feel very much under pressure.

I value my time alone. I really do. I love being able to make unilateral decisions and pursue my heart and mind’s deepest desires. For now, I am really happy to attend other people’s weddings and watch their bellies bloom with new life. I feel blessed to be able to watch my friends’ metamorphoses from self-doubting girls to self-assured women.

Truly a woman after my own heart. When relatives start making the marriage noises I change the channel. I am still trying to save up money for lobola in case I end up settling down with an African woman. Gotta be prepared right?

Queers United: Nigeria Looking to Further Criminalize Same-Sex Relationships

Crossposted from Queers United: Nigeria Looking to Further Criminalize Same-Sex Relationships

The Nigerian government is currently considering a bill that would further criminalize same-sex relationships that would impose a minimum 3 year prison sentence for “anyone who has ‘entered into a same gender marriage contract’” as “an affront to family values!” Sound familiar? Mayor Eze of the Nigerian National Assembly said the bill was necessary to protect family values.

Anyone who “witnesses, abet and aids the solemnization” of a same gender marriage would face five years in prison, or a fine.

The law would make it easier for the police to arrest suspects, and criminalize anyone working in a human rights organization that dealt with gay rights, they say.

This is a further affront by the Nigerian government on the human rights of their LGBT citizens and allies. Please take a moment to voice your opposition to this egregious bill.

Here is the contact information for the Embassy of the Federal Republic of Nigeria:

Embassy of the Federal
Republic of Nigeria
3519 International Court, NW
Washington, DC 20008
Tel: (202) 986-8400
Fax: (202) 362-6541

E-contact form for Nigerian Embassy within the United States.

Crossposted via Salinas Valley Equality.

Random Post: Movies I love

I'm procrastinating and I decided to throw ina few movies that I've seen one time too many.

1 - There's a Zulu on my Stoep (I can already hear the protests but let's be honest, who did not like Zulu Matshibusa Ah'nainai)

2 - K3G aka Kabhi Khushi Khabie Gham (a Hindi classic - at least in my books)

3 - Love and Basketball (one of the best soundtracks EVER and Sanaa being in it didn't hurt either)

4 - Lagaan (another Hindi classic - Rachel Shelley is in it BTW)

5 - I Can't Think Straight

Half Penny Post: South African Documentary on Lesbian Rape

I generally post light material but of late I've been seeing a lot of articles on rape in South Africa. There is a documentary called "Rape For Who I Am: South Africa" and I had never seen the full piece. Today someone posted a complete link to it and I thought I'd share it with you. (you'll need to click the play icon twice as the poster set it to show a pop-up with the first click)

For those who did not see the article in The Huffington Post "South Africa: 'Corrective Rape' Spreads To 'Fix' Lesbians" please take a moment to read it. It is based on the article that was published in The Guardian "Raped and killed for being a lesbian: South Africa ignores 'corrective' attacks". You can see the video for the piece here.

South Africa was once one of the leading examples of what an African nation was capable of. They had a system in place for justice. They had the Truth and Reconciliation Commission, though there is debate on how much good it did. Today it is one of the countries that has one of the highest crime rates. In the documentary they mentioned that someone is raped every 29 seconds. Noone has the right to harm another in the name of getting them back to normal. If anything the rapist is the one that has to brought back to the path of right and wrong. While I am thusly thinking of it, what is normal anyway? It can be interpreted 1001 different ways and no one definition is absolutely correct. We should aspire to treat each other with the same respect that we wish to be treated.

Sometimes I wonder if these men would feel as justified if their daughters were raped by other men. One woman's twin daughters were raped in order to teach the mother a lesson and one of the daughters eventually committed suicide. That I think was the story that hit me the hardest. What crime did the daughters commit? I know that it is said (loosely translated) the easiest way to hurt a mother is to hurt her childern, but honestly what kind of a man are you if you stoop so low as to hurt the children in order to get to the mother. Are there no role models out there to teach these young men what it means to respect one's self and the others around them?

In one of the videos, a bloke says he has no time to do it but thinks it's right to rape lesbians ... btw judging by his accent he is probably Zimbabwean. Another says that it is a Western thing or the latest thing. I hate to break it to them, but homosexuality was in Africa well before the colonialists came. It is recorded in ancient history and is part of the traditions that you follow today. Homophobia was introduced by the colonialists so get your facts straight. A good book to read on this is Hungochani: History of Dissident Sexuality in Southern Africa by Marc Epprecht. Anyway I should quit ranting on this topic . BTW, a side note on South Africa: last year there was a wave of crimes that highlighted the xenophobia that has set in.

For those who have wondered why I really have no interest in going back home, stories like these are one of the reasons why.

Half Penny Post: Weekly Rundown

A lil late but posted non the less....

• Another week's gone by, and we are that much closer to spring. That transalates into misery for those with allergies. Today was a rough day and my nose has been thoroughly exfoliated not to mention my eyes. I'm surprised I didn't break out into hives given how much I've been getting my scratch on. I do so hate it when the itch in under the skin and you can't quite get it.
• Job updates: I had a web development seminar and made 2 good contacts. I might be collaborating with one of them on a project if we can line things up. I have 2 informational interviews scheduled for early next week so gotta prep & get my questions right for those. I also have a resume review meeting Monday so we'll see where it leads.
• I'm slowly ticking things off my list of goals for the month of March. It feels soooooo good to do that.
• Had me some doro wat yesterday that was some fabulous stuff. Good conversation and a good meal, some mild flirtation what more can one ask for?
• My phone rounded its last bend so I had to break out some screw drivers and put some time into repairs. I should have a PhD in breakology. Good thing to come out of this repair session is that I now have the calendar on my phone synced with my google calendar.
• I'm due for a trip so I'm heading to OK to see my niece and nephew next weekend. Tis a 12 hour drive... should be fun. I am reaching a point whereby I need to make a decision where my niece is concerned. I've for the most part dodged her questions about dating and stuff because I know her parents don't approve of the "gay lifestyle". That she has been sheltered probably doesn't aid the cause. Child will be 12 shortly and she does need to understand that gay folks do exist in the family. We are not an abstract idea.
• My mother continues to wait for her passport ...
• I am feeling anxious about something, donno what though.
• BTW recall my visualization thing from a few weeks back. Well I was visualizing a lil somn and it came to pass. :)
• Other than that it's been a pretty quiet week.

Random Post: Entertaining South African Commercial

This was just too good to pass up on posting. Shout out to the site MarkLives.com for highlighting it. MarkLives.com showcases "the best creative work emerging from one of the worlds hottest emerging markets!" Judge not the product, but the creative genius.

The creators described it as such:

There is nothing more annoying than having your head used as a napkin by your elders. Ogilvy Johannesburg tapped into the idiosyncrasy of this local tradition to devise a quirky ad to promote KFC’s Streetwise 2 meal. The hand-on-head wiping is a ritual meant to bode well for lots of cows and therefore wealth for the young boy on the receiving end. The boy in the ad decides he’s had enough of the head-wiping business and comes up with the idea of buying KFC’s Streetwise 2 special for himself and his uncle. Instead of wiping his hands on the boy’s head, the uncle instead licks his fingers, because KFC is just so “finger-licking good.”

Half Penny Post: Reflecting on a reading - Harmonic Wealthy

Ok I've been on a contemplative bend of late. I've been really rethinking things and working towards keeping a positive countenace while moving forward. I've also been reading life advancement books. I hate to call them self help books. So below is my first of several reflections on the book. Long post so you have been warned!

The book I'm reading now is Harmonic Wealth and the concepts presented are across a wide spectrum. There is Newtonian physics, quantum physics, different religious view and plain old common sense. It reiterates the Law of Attraction but goes further and brings in other scientific and spiritual ideas. When looking at harmony, there has to be be overall flow. Everything is energy, be is light or solid and as such it flows from one state to another ... stay with me on this. When we are setting our goals we have to be able to imagine them. First state. Next we have to be able to articulate them in great detail (smell, touch, sight). Second state. Two thirds of the work done already. Finally work with that goal in mind. Go over the bumps with the prize in mind.

Anyway while looking at spirituality he discusses who is or where is God. Most religions have a Deity of chose, save for the atheists. Anyway he concludes that God is everywhere and most specifically in you. He also concludes that heaven is in you. This is something that I had to ponder for a while and do actually agree with. Think nirvana for example.

Where I am in the book he is discussing the theory of chaos and relating it to wine making (told u the spectrum was wide). In winemaking grapes are kept under duress so as to produce the finest wine possible. Theory behind it is only the strongest grapes make it. In life, the same concept applies, we are constantly in a state of chaos and duress and it is when we get past it that we are at our finest. I am going to be worth a million US dollars by my twenty seventh birthday. I am not sure how but I am keeping my mind focused on that, it's been my goal since I turned 22. At times it feels as if I'm going backwards with this goal, but I do believe I am making headway. That's what my gut tells me. I can picture it in my mind. I have come to realize that it's not so much about the money. It's about the journey. It's about my growing personally to the point whereby I am able to achieve this and replicate it. It's about expanding all my capabilities so that I am able to handle bigger responsibilities. If I am going to faint at a thousand dollar problem, I will surely kill myself over a million dollar problem. As the amount of chaos in my life increases, how I respond will determine my how much closer I get to my goals. Fainting is not an option. We are going all the way.

I took a walk along the lake after work today as I needed to be outside to contemplate things. A thought hit me and I must say it was one hell of an epiphany. One of my goals in life is to get dual Canadian and British citizenship. Now how can I explain the fact that I have been fighting left and right to stay in the US instead of moving north? How do you get Canadian citizenship while living in the US? I really have been going about things backwards and need to start aligning my goals with my actions. O and I am learning French in preparation.

Yes I am spending a lot of time philosophizing and redefining myself, and I do believe it will pay off. I need to know myself before I can market myself properly.

Ty

Half Penny Post: WTF Ilene, I mean seriously

I have just finished watching the last episode of the L-Word and all I have to say is WTF? Seriously? There were so many loose ends in this episode that I can't even begin to articulate them. Also whose bright idea was it and by bright I mean in which dimension is it acceptable to give us half a sex scene. You could honestly have skipped including it and given us a lil more somn else. Problem with that is that it begs the question a lil more what?

And don't even get me started on Sarah Shahi. Here I was hoping to see her interact with Shane one more time but I guess that was wishful thinking on my part. I should have known better.

Anyway it was nice to see some of the familiar faces from seasons past. I will miss my love hate relationship with the ladies and my Sunday nights are suddenly free. Quite the problem. I will miss Jennifer Beals' smile most of all. Same can't be said for Jenny's psychotic self.

Anyway back to the drawing board. Any shows that I need to start watching / DVRing since I don't quite have time to watch them?

Half Penny Post: Weekly Rundown

First off we'll take a moment to think of those who passed on this week. A friend of mine lost his grandmama and I felt for him. I've lost all my grandparents but the loss of my maternal grandma was the hardest. Also Tsvangirai (Zim's new Prime Minister) lost his wife earlier today in an accident that left him injured some so my condolences to his family as well.

On to this week's rundown:

• I came across a song that has earned itself a place on this week's playlist. Tis the song Blush by Plumb and it is by no means a new song. Check it out on YouTube sometime. I'm partial to the fan vid that has I Can't Think Straight. My taste in music is across the board so at times I feel like some alternative rock, at times I'm feeling the Lord, at times we taking it back to EarthWind and Fire.
• My website went live officially this week. So we now add hustle # 253,962 to my list of activities. I'm now also an Independent Technology Consultant. My sister thinks that it's funny that I named my website / consulting venture after my "alter ego" Ty.
• The job search hustle continues ... I heard back from the fine folks at AfDevBank and I'm through to the next round. I'm vying for a spot on the DC April interview roster and a job with the organization that starts in August. I am thinking positive thoughts so ... I am going all the way. We are taking this to the bank literarily.
• I'm all about connecting with and connecting people these days. That's my new thing so if you think I can be of assistance let me know, mostly tech stuff though.
• BTW, I am trying to learn French and would appreciate any learning tools or website recommendations.
• My ma is still waiting on her passport. It's been 3 months and it's really wearing her down as she can't travel to any of the neighboring countries.
• Shout out to my fellow queer Zimba who I ran into on AE.
• My phone screen took to the hills yesterday so my calling activities are limited to the numbers that I know by heart aka my sister only.
• I'm on to my next life advancement book and it is Harmonic Wealth (sketchy title but a good and practical read). There needs to be harmony in your life for you to develop wealth in all aspects of it that is, financial (duh), spiritual, mental, relational and physical. Author is James Arthur Ray. As I read books, or listen to CDs, I've taken to writing summaries so that I can recall the main points. I think I'm going to post them on my site website. I'll put each week's links in the weekly rundown.

Teach Tolerance and have an awesome weekend!

Ty

Half Penny Post: Thoughts and other random things

I have the day off of work today so I've spent it lounging, online doing research, job hunting, paper writing, errand running etc. I do suffer from a case of ADD at times which is why I have 23 different things going at a given time.

Today's post is full of random bits and questions answered from Cherry Bomb a few weeks ago. Jr, I'm thinking this is a post that you might wanna skip as there might be things you don't wanna know about ur sis.

• I'm beginning to encounter more African queers which I think is one of the coolest things. Even a Zimba or two have shown up and I am beyond ecstatic. AfterEllen is a great way to meet em.
• Of all the fine actresses of color, I'm super hot for Sanaa Lathan, Sheetal Sheth and Nicole Pina.
• I've developed an interest in spoken word and YouTube being the necessary evil that it is means that I've watched a lot of Def Poetry.
• I've developed a great dislike for shirt wearing. If I'm at home and in my room, odds are pretty good I'm shirtless. Yes I love my body that much.

Truth or Strip

Have you ever walked in on someone doing something that they shouldn't have been? What?

Friends in college getting their swerve on. I didn't even know the 2 knew each other. I blame this on class being let out early.

What's the strangest thing you've done to get a person's attention?

No idea. I talk to people that's about it really.

If you could get $25,000 for stripping naked on TV would you?

Nope. How much would it take? A hella lot.

Have you ever considered being a stripper? Why?

Who doesn't want to be called Hot Chocolate or Juicy Peach or whatever they call strippers these days? NOT!

Have you ever fantasized about having sex in a public place or actually done it?

Strip: Socks

What's something sexual that you used to think of as vulgar and inappropriate and now don't?

Strip: Sweatshirt

If someone made a movie about my life what would they call it?

What not to do

If you were given 6 million dollars but had to give up sex and masturbation, would you do it?

Depends on how long we're talking about.

Who was the first person you ever had a crush on and how old were you?

Hell if I can remember.

If you had a half hour to live what would you do?

Not sure really. Probably call up family and tell em I love em and then make sure my will is in order. Don't want anybody questioning who gets what from my non existent estate.

If you were guaranteed an honest answer from any person in the world, who or what would you ask?

My dad - why the hell he was such a jackass to my mum.

Majority of the time who or what do you think about when you masturbate and why?

STRIP! I ain't putting my business out like that. T-Shirt

Have you ever dated 2 people at the same time without telling them? Why didn't I tell them?

Yes, t'was an ego thing.

What's your most intimate fantasy?

Strip: Cargos

If you could describe urself as a weather event what would it be and why?

What the hell kind of question is that?

Would you rather have perfect hair, body, face etc?

Neither. I would love some Michelle O brains.

Have you ever had a one night stand?

Nope. I am hella conscious about who be rolling through my sheets.

What's the worst thing you've done on a webcam?

Nothing. Don't want my shit in YouTube.

What's my fav sex toy?

Strip: Shorts

We'll stop here as there is only so much that can be taken off legally :P.

Ty

Half Penny Post: Recharged

A day or two off the grid works wonders for one's health.

This afternoon I watched both I Can't Think Straight and The World Unseen. Freaking awesome! I highly recommend the 2 movies back to back. Nothing like queer women of color to make life bearable... even if they are only acting.

My ears still hurt like the dickens but I do not have an ear infection thankfully. It seems to be stemming from my sinusitis. Bah!

Ty