Tuesday, November 4, 2008

Half Penny Post: Life, family et al

I must say the warm weather has been a nice change. I've been trying to spend as much time outdoors as possible. Yesterday (Sunday) I decided to walk instead of catching the bus while running errands. I figured walking along the lakeshore would not only be relaxing but also a good round of exercise. The time outdoors cleared away a headache that had been brewing which I am eternally grateful for because I knew that if it hit I'd be out for the count.

Anyway while I was walking along the shore there were parents with their kids playing. I remember a couple that was playing catch with their little boy and teaching him to bat as well. He was a little sweetheart. There were other parents out with kids of all ages either playing games or just walking.

That got me thinking, when I have a kid of my own (I've finally decided that I do want children eventually, but I'm adopting) will I be there for them in the way that they need me to be. I am still working out my issues with my folks and I do sometimes worry that when I do have kids, the issues will come up again when it comes to my parenting. But I figure the kid will be ahead by a mile as their other mother will probably be better adjusted.

I had a discussion with a friend of mine a few days ago about the adoption & raising of kids. I would like to give my child several names and 2 last names. Names will be in English, Zimba & ethnicity of other mother. Kid will also have both last names. I would like to have it that way because I am fully aware that I will not be able to put my partner's name on the adoption certificate if I'm the one adopting.

I would love for the child to learn about their heritages, eg if they are Zimba I would like them to learn both the history and language. It is something that I think is crucial in their understanding of themselves. My grandparents insisted on teaching me about my heritage (I've got the ancestry down a number of generations) and the languages. I was not interested in it at the time but I learnt to get them off my back. Now I'm glad that they insisted that I learn. As all my grandparents have passed on, I will always have that part of them with me. Speaking of grandparents that have passed on, I was saddened to hear that Obama's grandma had passed on. Prayers go out to him and his family.

On a lighter note, Lewis Hamilton won the Formula 1 world championship ... YAY! Now I was suprised to learn that he is dating Nicole Scherzinger of PCD... anyway he beat Massa by a point :). Drinks all around(non alcoholic)!

Today is the dawn of a new era ... Obama Pride all the way.


1 comment:

readyornot said...

i like the idea of using both last names. i think that's a smart move, i also think it's great that you want to teach your children their culture and heritage. if for some reason you end up not having a life-partner-- would you still adopt? would you consider being a single mother??